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So, when you go to your closet to select an outfit you inevitably associate particular emotions with certain clothes, correct? The red one reminds you of your last date that went so well. The white sweater always makes you feel so comfortable. That grey suit did not bring you luck the last time you gave a talk. Those black shoes are a thrill but they hurt so much during your last theater visit that you felt like throwing them into the next garbage bin…

Are clothes associated with emotions? Do they take us back to positive and negative experiences? How does that affect us in our daily lives? What if a power suit that has never done you any good in the past is still taking up space in your closet? Should you get rid of it? When is it time to go through your wardrobe and clean out those Loser-Clothes?

Clothes are an extension of us. They are what we wear on the outside while we experience their effect on the inside. In a way, they are the bridge between the seen and the unseen, the spoken and the unspoken. So what if that connection is off and what you display to the world is no longer who you are? I know, it is almost disturbing to suggest that clothes may have that much power. But what if they do? What if they say more about you then you ever realized?

There were times when I felt like that nothing in my closet represented who I am any longer. I would get rid of large numbers of clothes and felt better — ready to start anew. If your clothes no longer tell us who you are then it may be time for you to start revamping that closet again. This is not just a question of money but a question of connection to oneself. Revamping can consist of looking at your items and asking yourself honestly why you wear (or not wear) certain pieces? What, you have not worn that thing over a year?  Then why is it still taking up space in your closet? What, you feel sad every time you wear those pants because they remind you of a break-up? Then what are these pants still doing there? I think you get my gist. We have the power to change our clothes at any time and sometimes that is just what we need.

Most recently I put a number of clothes that I no longer wear in a drawer. That created a lot space in my closet. Now,  there is space again for new stuff and the new me. Eventually I will be able to donate that drawer so others can wear with joy what I no longer make any use of. In other words, everyone benefits.

I love suits — so long as they are fitted (not necessarily custom-made).  Why do I say that?  Because there is a big difference between a fitted suit and a non-fitted suit.  The former flatters you while the latter does not.  To illustrate my point, take a look at this beautiful ready-to-buy Tahari suit: http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod90570001&ecid=NMCIGoogleBaseFeed&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=T27HN

Besides the sophisticated neckline, you will notice the nicely flowing silhouette that is visible from the front and the back.  The knee-length of the skirt is perfect (not too short for a work environment but still glamorous enough to stand out).  If you prefer a pant suit, this line would look just as good with paints because it brings out your figure. 

If red is too flamboyant for you try bordeaux (wine) which is more subdued but still flattering.  This above suit would look stunning in most colors even in black, grey or blue.  If you go for black or grey or blue give it some bling with a fine pearl – or faint diamond necklace to keep it from looking too stale.  Also, try to come out of your comfort zone and try a subdued green — it can look stunning, particularly on blondes and red-heads!

Now compare the Tahari suit with this less-fitted suit: http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod90280040&parentId=cat15940733&masterId=cat19670732&index=21&cmCat=cat000000cat000001cat17740747cat19670732cat15940733

Well, if you are rail thin and very tall you can probably get away with this.  Also, if you want to look like a man, this is the one for you.  But if you rather just look like a sophisticated working woman and are of average weight or height, this type of suit will do very little for you.  Yes, it looks good on a size zero model but the question is, would it look good on you? 

I found that trying things on helps you discover your best fit.  Personally, I find that Tahari, New York Jones, Armani and St. John’s work well for me.  You may find others more suitable.  So go out there and try stuff on.  A good suit is an investment, so take your time and bring a friend if you need help discerning what fits best.

Here is another fitted suit I like, it is conservative in color and yet has an edge because of the material: http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod95760212&parentId=cat15940733&masterId=cat19670732&index=38&cmCat=cat000000cat000001cat17740747cat19670732cat15940733

If you tend to go for ultra-conservative in terms of color, consider variation in material and style, see the sophisticated closure on this one: http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod83870064&parentId=cat15940733&masterId=cat19670732&index=36&cmCat=cat000000cat000001cat17740747cat19670732cat15940733

Well, I hope this was helpful.  Now go out there and have fun trying things on! 

Do you work in the law profession and feel pressured to act and dress a certain way? Love to get female and male perspectives? Pleae give your feedback!! Thanks!

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